One of my dogs likes to pee in the house when he is mad or bored. When I have not payed attention I receive a lecture about how irresponsible I am. DH doesn’t want to hear my excuses. When DH hasn’t payed attention he has reasons that are perfectly reasonable and any reasoning person would reasonably understand his reasons.
Our yearly subdivision dues are…Past due. I had reminded DH twice, in an email, about them. I never received a reply. Monday we have the yearly meeting of the neighbors. I stuck my head out the door and mentioned the dues. I was not yelling… Rather flat affected. Reminded him and told him to do this today if he had not. He said he hasn’t done it and I should listen to his reasons. I did. Perfectly reasonable reason. I then mentioned I would not have bothered him if he had bothered to respond to my emails. For some inexplicable reason he re-stated his reason.
This is a common thing. I don’t have reasons. DH can’t acknowledge my reasons because he can’t understand them. He doesn’t understand depression or apathy. When he feels bad, sick or any other negative emotion he pushes right thru it. It is one of the things I admire about him. I’m not that person. I wallow and roll around in the emotions until I’m so saturated a person can see the sweat of emotions on my skin. Then I pick myself up and slowly climb back into the world.
I kinda want to bash his face in right now. I won’t. But I want to.
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Good decision!
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