And the universe does a nice job of reminding me that I am not the only one with pain: One of my dearest friends lost her dad this week. Her mom died 7 weeks ago (almost to the DAY). She has been so busy working with her dad and trying to make sure he is all set. Teaching him how to use the check book! Getting everything all set (just in case he were to die suddenly…GAH) and everyone’s name is on everything. She went to Vegas for a friend’s wedding and a much needed vacation. She was scheduled to come home on Tuesday but got a call on Monday he had died at home. Sadly, he was not found immediately, but about 3 days after-the-fact. She was able to get a emergent flight home Monday night.
DH and I have both been trying to support both her and her husband. She is at her wit’s end (does wit’s have an apostrophe? or is it just wits?… I think it has a floating comma…) DH is, as always, fantastic in this regard. He is phenomenal when acute support is needed. I applaud him.
My heart goes out to my friend. She is so sad because she felt she was finally connecting to her father. He was a gruff and not-so-very affectionate person. He was verbally abusive to her mother and younger sister and I suspect it didn’t end there. But with the loss of her mother she was finding some comfort and connection w/her dad that had never been there in the past. For this I grieve for her.
I leave this post without any whining on my part. My thoughts and my heart are with her and her whole family who are going through a whole lot of pain right now.
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